Why Is Self Improvement Important?

Why Is Self Improvement Important?

Trying To Be Someone Else Is Not The Answer

One of the most common things that people think when doubt and insecurity are starting to get the better of them is the idea that they’d like to be someone else. Usually, the root of this idea is that other people are better than we are, but if just put yourself in their shoes, you’ll realize that they’re just as insecure and scared as you are, if not more.

People May Look Confident, But . . .

For instance, say you see an attractive woman at a party, sitting by herself, sipping a glass of wine. She might look confident and collected, but chances are that she’s wondering if people are talking about her since she’s sitting alone, maybe thinking that people don’t find her attractive or that she feels inadequate compared to her friends. It could be any number of things, but almost no one out there is completely comfortable in their own skin.

They Have The World By The Tail, or Do They?

You might see a young, successful entrepreneur and think that he or she has the world on a string. However, when they’re alone, they’re probably wishing that they could change something about themselves, wondering why they’re not more popular or wondering how their life ended up so far short of the goals that they’d always dreamed of.

You Wish To Be Them; They Wish To Be You, So Be Yourself

When you look at others and wish that you could be them, there’s a very good chance that they’re thinking exactly the same thing when they look at you. We’re insecure and so is almost everyone else. Low self-esteem and a lack of confidence are incredibly common problems and because of them, many of us don’t hold out much hope for the idea of self improvement; that’s how deep many of us sink into doubt and fear.

You May Think Your Habits Are Annoying, and They Might Be

Maybe you have a habit that annoys others. Unfortunately, you’ll probably be the last person to become aware of it. For example, I know someone who seems to never stop talking. Unfortunately, he’s usually the only one who’s interested in what he’s talking about and gradually, people have started avoiding him; it’s really only recently that he’s even started to notice how socially awkward he’s become.

The Takeaway

The takeaway here as far as self improvement goes is to talk to your friends and really listen to what they say. Ask a close friend about any off-putting habits you suspect you may have – it should be obvious to your friend that what you’re trying to do is improve yourself. Be willing to take their constructive criticism to heart and don’t turn it into an argument; and unless your friend asks you to do the same in return, don’t take this as an opportunity to give them constructive criticism.

Learn To Love Yourself

You have to learn to love and value yourself (like Whitney Houston said). If you want to love others, you have to love yourself first – you can’t give love that you don’t have in the first place. Before you tell anyone else how to improve themselves or their lives, show them that you’re also engaged in the process of self improvement and are striving to become the best you can be. Lead by example and inspiration, not by criticism and negativity.

Never fall into the trap of thinking that you’re second class.

Don’t get caught in the “if only I was…” game. Accept yourself for who you are and don’t compare yourself to others – that’s the first and most important step on the path to a better you.

None of us are perfect and no one is totally free of insecurity.

We all wish we could change something about ourselves or our lives, but you don’t need to be perfect to be happy. Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Self improvement isn’t about keeping up with the Joneses or showing off. It’s about accepting yourself and letting positive change into your life which creates contentment.

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